Happiness isn't something you find or achieve: you create your own.

Here's how those truly people do it:

• They’re flexible and adaptable.

People resist change; it's in our DNA. While bad things can happen outside your comfort zone, so do the best things, and happy people thrive on knowing that. Life is tough. You make plans and life laughs, so you can't get bent out of shape when things don't go as planned. Truly happy people roll with the punches and don't let unexpected things (even failures) get them down.

They are optimists.

The power of positive thinking is one of the most powerful, yet underutilized tools to create your own happiness. Simply believing that things will work out in the end will help you deal with tough situations as they come (because they will). Cynics will call them rose colored glasses, but the optimists of the world simply like to find the best in everything and don't feel compelled to find faults. It's easier said than done, but you can change your outlook by remembering: you've survived every single one of your bad days so far, haven't you? So it really, truly, always works out in the end.

They have good self-esteem.

Imagine how much happier and less stressed you'd be if stopped comparing yourself to idealizations. When you feel confident, you have more brain space to focus on the things you love, and experience less doubt and apprehension, which can hold you back from the achieving those Big Goals. Building confidence can be difficult, especially as an adult, but you can train yourself to be more confident. The best place to start? Do the things you say you are going to do, and cut out the woulda, coulda, shoulda, I didn't do that so I'm a failure way of thinking. Decide that you are good enough and screw what the world tells you that you should be. It really is that simple.

They feel gratitude.

Gratitude is essential for happiness. Why? Because if you're happy with what you have, you will always have enough. If you don't feel grateful, you're always be looking for the newest, next big thing, no matter how much you already have. Who is happier? The man making minimum wage and grateful for the job and the ability to feed his family or the millionaire that hates every second of his job and is constantly lusting after what he doesn't have.  Feel more grateful by expressing your gratitude, openly and often, for all the great things you already have in your life. Too hard? Go volunteer at a domestic violence or homeless shelter and get a big, fat wake up call.

by Kelly Turner

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